It’s rare to find someone who embraces change with enthusiasm. When you know that change will turn your life upside-down and you don’t know what to expect. This rule of thumb can be applied to leaving a marriage. Rachael Scharrer, divorce and relationship expert, coach and founder of DivorceAnswered.com.au share five main factors that can help you to understand why it is hard to leave a bad marriage:
Unfortunately, there isn’t one checklist that you can go through that will tell you whether leaving your marriage is the right decision. However, you can prepare if you feel like the relationship you are in isn’t healthy or safe. To all clients and friends considering separation, I recommend that they go through the Divorce Answered Separation Checklist. It can help to create order by collating the essential documents, paperwork and items into a ‘safe’ box and place it to the side. If you decide to proceed with the separation, then you have made a head-start. If you decide to stay in your marriage, then there isn’t any harm done.
A word of caution: the grass is not always greener. Throughout all relationships, life throws curve-balls and the relationship takes a toll. Just because life becomes tough is not the right decision to leave your relationship – it is temporarily more difficult outside of the relationship and often it is difficult in a different way. Whether your challenges are work, children, family, financial or other, assessing whether you are facing a hurdle, barrier, obstacle or challenge that is temporary, periodic or long-term and whether you can live with it. These are questions that only you are able to answer for yourself.
If you want to explore whether leaving your relationship is right for you, please book a Life Coaching /Strategy Session here: www.divorceanswered.com.au/strategy-session/.
Remember, if you want a head-start on your potential or impending separation, review the Divorce Answered Separation Checklist