Why it is hard leaving a bad marriage

When a relationship ends, it can be devastating and a time of uncertainty. This is further challenging if your family don’t understand what you are going through and either ...

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Overcoming isolation and loneliness as a single primary parent

When a relationship ends, it can be devastating and a time of uncertainty. This is further challenging if your family don’t understand what you are going through and either ...

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Expert advice from family lawyer: Take care of your mental health

In conversation with Family Lawyer, Ms Turner, talks about the importance of taking care of your mental health when going through separation or divorce. She shares her top five tips ...

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Reclaiming your identity after break-up

When a relationship or marriage ends, people more often struggle with their identity. For many years or decades, you were comfortable as being referred to or known as someone’s wife/husband, someone’s son/daughter or someone’s mother/father. This changes in ...

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Read this before deciding to cohabit as a divorced parent

It is more financially viable to have another adult in the home as you raise your children or as the children spend time with you. However, there are a number of items that need to be considered when you do plan for ....

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From Break-up to Boomerang

We hear so much about the ‘boomerang’ generation, the millennials who have to move home after living their lifestyle lavishly. However, what is being overlooked are the copious number of....

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To my Mum going through Separation

Australian statistics show that the vast majority of children live in the primary care of their mother. As a mother navigating separation, financial restraints may …

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What is your visualisation block?

Sometimes, I write and speak about the power of visualisation. Visualisation is seeing the future, how it plays out and what the end result is with the expectation of manifestation. I stress how....

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Sleep Hygiene: Good for children, great for adults

Hauling children off to bed can become at difficult task. Equally, taking ourselves off to bed at a reasonable time can be a challenge. By implementing...

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To my Dad going through divorce

Some children live with their father, other children only get to spend time with them. With a generalised view, many fathers become the spend-time with parent (or non primary parent). The changes …

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Breaking up is your opportunity to shine

Breaking up is a hard time for all people involved, especially when it comes as a surprise, after a long marriage or when children are involved. Your emotions can become overwhelming and, at times, crippling. You might not feel like …

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Valentine's Day 2018. Celebrating the most important person in your life

Valentine’s Day can be a time of great elation, joy and excitement, especially when you have someone to share it with. For others, Valentine’s Day is a reminder that …

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How to Help Your Adult Child Through Their Divorce

According to American studies and courts, January is considered “divorce month”. The idea behind divorce month is that people have had Christmas with their family, only just tolerated the time ...

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Divorce Month and Divorce Month Dumpers

According to American studies and courts, January is considered “divorce month”. The idea behind divorce month is that people have had Christmas with their family, only just tolerated the time ...

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6 financial stressors facing relationships today

Money matters and financial strains are one of the biggest sources of contention in a relationship. Most people can’t talk with their spouse and have a respectful and ...

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Toxic Talk

All too often, following separation, we often feel a little less confident in ourselves. We have been identified for a long time as the partner to someone else and been able to rely upon them or ...

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Creating an achievable resolution in 2018

It is the second day of 2018. Have you fulfilled and whole-heartedly committed to your resolution for the past 2 days? Many people may be muttering ...

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Simple Self-Care Tips

When divorcing, there is a lot to do, prepare and coordinate. It is not just physically taxing but also emotionally intensive and this incites positive and negative feelings. Coupling a separation or divorce with Christmas can be an overwhelming feat to undertake ...

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7 pressures that can strain a marriage

The are many things that can contribute towards the break-down of a marriage or serious relationship. Here are just a few pressure points that can strain a marriage ...

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Separation + Work = Financial Independence

For many individuals, separation means that they need to seek employment and be financially independent. This can be scary if you haven’t worked in a number of years (or ...

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Domestic Violence and Leaving The Relationship [personal perspective]

Dinner time is a great time for everyone to connect, learn and share. It helps to forge bonds between siblings and the parent/child relationship. Learn how and why here ...

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How to strengthen the bonds between siblings during divorce

Having a healthy level of expectations and understanding when working with a lawyer is essential. If you expect your lawyer to answer all of the small questions, sort out every little issue or document every concern, you will ...

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When Mums are Dads

There are more people than ever before using the Family Courts. The vast majority of the separating population are not able to afford unlimited legal representation. Equally, more and more people are self-representing and, understandably, they...

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12 Christmas Tips: How to Emotionally Prepare

As urban and metro areas become more densely populated, housing and blocks of land become smaller. More people are being forced to share a smaller space. For many people ...

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Divorce, Separation and your Last Will

Let’s cover a morbid topic and clarify what happens to your assets when you die. Divorce Answered shares insights into your marital status, your Last Will and associated implications of...

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10 ways to show affection without buying a gift

You don’t need to open your wallet and buy something to sow someone that you love them. There are ways that you can show affection without buying a gift or flowers. Divorce Answered offers 10 suggestions for ...

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12 Christmas Tips: How to Financially Prepare

As urban and metro areas become more densely populated, housing and blocks of land become smaller. More people are being forced to share a smaller space. For many people ...

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Should Children Share a Bedroom? Considerations for and against it

As urban and metro areas become more densely populated, housing and blocks of land become smaller. More people are being forced to share a smaller space. For many people ...

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Mental Health Awareness Day. A Marriage Under Pressure

When I separated in 2012, I knew that I did everything I could to try to get my husband help. The challenge with mental health is that it isn’t a tangible issue and there are ebbs and flows. More pitfalls...

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Self-medication alternatives when depressed or experiencing depression

Separation ultimately and periodically takes a toll on individuals. There will be moments of stress, anxiety, helplessness and frustration which can leave you feeling depressed or with depression. When these feelings arise, ...

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Was sharing a bathroom a contributing factor to your divorce?

(blog) I am clearly a challenging and particular person. I like things tidy and neat (where possible) and even behind the closed doors and inside cupboards. In an ideal world, I think men, women and their partners ...

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Divorced and Dating. The Two Types of Women

(Personal perspective) In 2012 my marriage was irreparable. Within days of my separation, I had two other girlfriends also separate. Incidentally, I have met and supported many women throughout their separations and ...

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Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?

Making the decision to end a marriage is a very big decision. Many people took vows to live together through poverty and poor health for the rest of their lives. Leaving the marriage leaves them feeling ...

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The Rights Of Grandparents In Divorce

Today, more than any previous generation, grandparents are playing a more active role in the lives of their grandchildren. This post is dedicated to Nanna. Nanna is concerned for other grandparents who aren’t able to facilitate a loving relationship with their grandchildren of divorce ...

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Learning to self-love after divorce

Often people leave their marriage feeling broken, bruised and bashed-about. They struggle with confidence as a parent, partner and as a person. Often, they have lost their self-value. Somehow and in some way, they need to find...

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R U Ok? Day. Considering divorcees and the children of divorce

R U Ok? Day is today, September 14, 2017, which means that more than ever before, we need to check in with our friends, family, neighbours and particularly the growing number of divorcees. This year, you are asked you to please pay particular attention to your friends starting or in the thick of their divorce...

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What To Do Now That You Are Separated

While divorce is devastating, it can be equally as liberating. Whether you made the decision or the decision to end the union was made for you, it is still a huge change. For many people, they...

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Deciding Not To Be A Divorce Victim

What marriage is and what it looks like is ever changing. The traditional 1950s stay at home mother with working husband is antiquated. Today, there are traditional, blended and single-parent families, de facto...

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Navigating Father's Day for Children of Divorce and their Dad

Many fathers wish that they could have more time each day, week or month with their children and this is often highlighted on Father’s Day. According to the ABS, almost one in 5 families are...

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Father's Day Solutions For Children of Single and Solo Mums

Not every child is fortunate to have their dad active and involved in their daily lives. There are many who have limited to no contact. The reasons for...

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Single Parents Guide to Navigating Special Occasions

As special occasions arise throughout the year, many divorced and single parents feel unsettled or unsatisfied with the parenting and visiting arrangements. It isn’t until...

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Shaking the Shackles of Marriage. How to have the 'I want a Separation' conversation

Deciding to end a relationship or a marriage is a life changing decision and the first step towards moving forward begins with a long and detailed conversation with your partner...

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12 Simple Ways to Help Children Through Divorce

Divorce and separation changes the dynamics for a family. Often the parents are so wrapped up in their own emotional turmoil that the children are sometimes the forgotten victims. Here are some...

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5 Tips for Leaving An Abusive Relationship

It is alarming to know that domestic violence is an ongoing issue around the country. In fact, one in three Australian women have experienced physical violence and one in four Australian women have experienced emotional abuse by a current or former partner . Domestic violence doesn’t discriminate ...

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How soon is too soon to move on after divorce?

Divorce Answered reflects upon the ‘how soon is too soon to move on after divorce’ question and offers some self-reflection considerations before taking the leap. “When is it the right time to move on?” is one of the biggest questions faced by...

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6 Phrases Not To Say To Your Divorcing Friend

Divorcing is difficult. Friends and family want to support you. Just like in times of loss and grief, separation is equally difficult and finding the right words can be hard. As a support person, the top...

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The Importance Of Following Professional Advice and Recommendations

Failing to follow the recommendations of any professional throughout the divorce process could have undesired consequences. Depending on your court case, your lawyer, appointed judge and other professionals, you may not like the outcomes that are either...

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What To Do When Your Ex IS SAFE And Threatens Suicide

At the end of a relationship, often one spouse copes better with the change than the other. One of the spouse may feel a sense of relief, optimism and elation compared to the other who is lost, confused and filled with remorse or regret. Grief is also ...

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The Duality Of Feelings in Separation

Separation can leave you feeling two extremes - One that weighs heavily upon you while experiencing the opposite emotion at the same time. Separation is a process highlighted with emotional challenges and growth concurrently occurring. On any given day...

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The Lessons Learned From Divorce

Divorcing can be a time of awakening and enlightenment while filled with challenges and tribulations. However, once you have made your way through the process and once ...

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For men. Domestic Violence Victims and How to Leave the Relationship

The founder of DivorceAnswered.com.au wants to raise awareness of the male victims of domestic violence and offer advice for leaving a relationship involving domestic violence. Domestic Violence Awareness Month is in May and is to raise awareness of Domestic Violence in all relationships. Often it is skewed towards the female victims and many men don’t realise that ...

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10 Ways Children are Misused in Divorce

Too often parents complain that their ex-spouse is using the children as ‘weapons’ in divorce. While a parent may think nothing of their choices or actions, the long-term ramifications of this can have life-long detrimental aftershocks for the child, the innocent party of divorce. There are too many ways in which parents ...

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10 Realistic Expectations When Divorcing

Divorcing isn’t easy and there is a lot of sweat and tears wasted before you can experience the ‘silver lining’. Before you start, shift your divorce expectations.

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When Will I be divorced? The generalised process and timeline

Your marriage doesn’t end with the words “I don’t want to be with you anymore”. This video is a general synopsis of the timeline that you follow along the road to divorcing while offering some tips and considerations.

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Tips For Planning to Separate And The End of a Marriage

Ending a marriage is complex, even if you are the one planning to leave. Here are a few tips from Divorce Answered about how to end the marriage. Starting with "making sure it is something that you really want to do"

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Modernising The Way We Celebrate Valentine’s Day

With divorce rates on the rise coupled with the inequity of women to men ratios, there are more and more people celebrating Valentine’s Day on their own. If we were as a nation to review the way that we celebrate Valentine’s Day from a ‘couple-exclusive’ occasion and share it with the masses, it would be...

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Myths And Fallacies About Being a Single Parent

There are many common and widely known statements about being a single parent or single parenting. While these may be true for some people (the minority), they are generalisations which don’t apply to the vast majority of single parents and are made without any factual basis or concrete evidence. Many of the statements below are …

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Separation and Your Friends, The Changes in Divorce

When you separate, your will need additional support from your friends and family. However, for some friends don’t have the emotional intelligence or ability to offer that support. “Some friends will have the depth of a puddle…

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New Year Resolutions for the Single, Separated and Divorced

Have you made your new year resolution yet? Is it a good one? Now that the New Year weekend has passed, perhaps it’s time to think of something a little different than the usual “giving up” or exercise more. One of the biggest contributing factors that resolutions fail is because they aren’t achievable. Below are …

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Children Get Divorced Too

Children go through a “divorce” too. The world that they knew as a “family” becomes very different. The relationship with both parents changes and sometimes it involves moving homes. Sometimes, the separation can have a positive impact on the children, especially removing them from situations of neglect, high tensions and abuse. Other times, the children …

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Do Not Press Send!

Rule number 1, Do not press send in anger. No matter how angry or frustrated you are by a comment, call, message or email from your ex-partner, do not retaliate. Do not enter into the depths of hate and payback. Be the bigger person and refrain from engaging further into a degrading situation. If you need …

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Fred Stays With Me! (Nancy Coffelt)

This is a beautifully written story about a little child whose parents are divorced. As the child moves between each house, so does her dog, Fred. Fred is the constant companion and confidant. What is particularly interesting about this story is that the dog presents the challenge for the parents, the child asserts her authority …

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How To Tell My Partner “I Want a Divorce!”

Before running out and proclaiming that you want a divorce, have you done everything that you can possibly do to salvage it? If the answer is yes, then I recommend you being as amicable and as kind as possible through the process. Start by imagining how you want your relationship to be in the future …

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How to know when it is time to get divorced?

Making the decision to end a marriage is a very big decision. Many people took vows to live together through poverty and poor health for the rest of their lives. Leaving the marriage leaves them feeling conflicted. Ending the marriage leaves some people feeling relieved and elated, others numb or guilty. In my opinion, there …

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Mum and Dad Glue (Kes Gray)

This book is a short picture book about parents who have decided to separate. It addresses the love lost between the parents and a child’s attempt to “stick” them back together with “parent glue”. This rhyming story delivers a powerful and optimistic message and reinforces the lesson that despite the parents not loving each other …

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Pulling The Pin on Domestic Violence and Harrassment

Domestic violence is often ignored by the victim and “swept under the rug”. Unfortunately, domestic violence only gets worse and doesn’t go away on its own. Unhealthy relationships often start with love, friendship, trust and loyalty. During the relationship, one of the couple (“the Bully”) takes the power, becomes possessive and demands control with an …

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Rebuilding; When Your Relationship Ends (Bruce Fisher)

Rebuilding features 19 steps that people go through after breaking up. Fisher describes each stage from the point of view of the “dumpee” and “dumper” and further explains what the children of the break up may be experiencing during this time too. Each chapter is relatively short and features a brief questionnaire at the end …

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Separation And The Changing State of Friends

When you get divorced you learn who your true friends are. Some are super supportive and call regularly to check on your wellbeing. Others run away. Friends, regardless of the reason, move on. However, separation tends to make it blatantly and more painfully obvious. Generally, coupled friends close to you and your partner often feel …

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Storms Can’t Hurt The Sky; A Buddhist Path Through Divorce (Gabriel Cohen)

Storms Can’t Hurt The Sky, A Buddhist Path Through Divorce is not a book telling you how to divorce and what to do. It is a book recounts the emotional journey and how Gabriel Cohen managed his anger using Buddhist teachings. By educating the reader how Buddhist teachings help you to choose how you react …

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Top 10 Things To Do For You When Divorcing

Start a gratitude journal. Learn to be mindful of the little things. Celebrate the small wins for you, your friends and family without jealousy, Get a hobby, find your passion or study. Your friends will tire of hearing all about your divorce and children. Finding a new activity, will help make you personally fulfilled and...

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Two Homes (Clare Masure)

This is a simple, gender neutral story of a child named Alex who explains his/her story about having two homes. It is told using short, simple sentences and a happy and upbeat language complimented with bright illustrations. Alex show the reader the two homes that he/she lives in, the two front doors, two kitchens and …

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