Posts Tagged “wellbeing”


How the same-sex marraige debate is redundant and wasteful

I find it interesting how, in the 21st century, some conservative people in positions of power and influence are resisting the immediate legalisation of same-sex marriage. To date, ...

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Shaking the Shackles of Marriage. How to have the 'I want a Separation' conversation

Deciding to end a relationship or a marriage is a life changing decision and the first step towards moving forward begins with a long and detailed conversation with your partner...

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12 Simple Ways to Help Children Through Divorce

Divorce and separation changes the dynamics for a family. Often the parents are so wrapped up in their own emotional turmoil that the children are sometimes the forgotten victims. Here are some...

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How soon is too soon to move on after divorce?

Divorce Answered reflects upon the ‘how soon is too soon to move on after divorce’ question and offers some self-reflection considerations before taking the leap. “When is it the right time to move on?” is one of the biggest questions faced by...

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4 Lessons About Raising Children as a Working Parent

I recently heard a smart person say that we should never feel guilty about being a working parent. To be guilty means assumes that something was wrong and a wrong-doing done. There is nothing wrong about working to...

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5 Tips for Leaving An Abusive Relationship

It is alarming to know that domestic violence is an ongoing issue around the country. In fact, one in three Australian women have experienced physical violence and one in four Australian women have experienced emotional abuse by a current or former partner . Domestic violence doesn’t discriminate ...

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6 Phrases Not To Say To Your Divorcing Friend

Divorcing is difficult. Friends and family want to support you. Just like in times of loss and grief, separation is equally difficult and finding the right words can be hard. As a support person, the top...

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What To Do When Your Ex IS SAFE And Threatens Suicide

At the end of a relationship, often one spouse copes better with the change than the other. One of the spouse may feel a sense of relief, optimism and elation compared to the other who is lost, confused and filled with remorse or regret. Grief is also ...

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Mixed Emotions About Settling Out of Court

Have you ever known a person who says one thing and does the opposite? Do you know a person who keeps changing their mind or is incredibly fickle? Try making an offer for settlement with this unknown entity! I have been asked by my ex-spouse to ...

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The Duality Of Feelings in Separation

Separation can leave you feeling two extremes - One that weighs heavily upon you while experiencing the opposite emotion at the same time. Separation is a process highlighted with emotional challenges and growth concurrently occurring. On any given day...

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The Lessons Learned From Divorce

Divorcing can be a time of awakening and enlightenment while filled with challenges and tribulations. However, once you have made your way through the process and once ...

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Pulling The Pin on Domestic Violence and Harrassment

Domestic violence is often ignored by the victim and “swept under the rug”. Unfortunately, domestic violence only gets worse and doesn’t go away on its own. Unhealthy relationships often start with love, friendship, trust and loyalty. During the relationship, one of the couple (“the Bully”) takes the power, becomes possessive and demands control with an …

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Letting Go Of Anger. It is all up to you.

Nobody really wins in divorce. It is easy to blame the other person in the marriage for its failings. It is effortless playing the victim. You may be amazed to know that it is likely that the other person in your relationship is also playing victim, blaming you and telling a vastly different version of …

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Create Your Divorce Song List

Music moves moods. It can change your emotional state dramatically and quickly. Depending on the genre of music that you like, you might like to consider creating different song list or compilations depending on your different moods. Separate your songs into categories such as motivating/uplifting, anger diffusing and calming. To help you get started, you …

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Amicable Separations Often Sour

It takes a lot of energy and effort to make a divorced couple’s ongoing relationship amicable. One person always feels like they are doing all of the compromising or “bending” to keep the relationship on the cordial track. Creating a happy, positive front while separated is possibly harder than working on the marriage...

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Self Discovery for Spiritual Enlightenment and Fulfillment

I was recently posed with the thought … Am I manifesting negativity because I don’t have a creative outlet or passion? A true expression of me? I realised that one of the failings in my life was that I never truly invested in me or found out what my passions are. I have found …

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Essential Health

Divorce, separation and single life has many challenges – peace of mind in a time of change and uncertainty is such a blessing. Just like you have to be able to love yourself before you can love someone else, you too aren’t any good to your loved ones if you can’t look after yourself or …

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Top 10 Things To Do For You When Divorcing

Start a gratitude journal. Learn to be mindful of the little things. Celebrate the small wins for you, your friends and family without jealousy, Get a hobby, find your passion or study. Your friends will tire of hearing all about your divorce and children. Finding a new activity, will help make you personally fulfilled and...

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Divorcing With Children VS Divorcing Without Children

When I got separated, the only people I knew that had divorced did so prior to having children. All of my other friends with children were in happy, contented marriages. My friends were so supportive, but couldn’t offer any advice when it came to managing the other parent, what to do or how to handle …

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How To Tell My Partner “I Want a Divorce!”

Before running out and proclaiming that you want a divorce, have you done everything that you can possibly do to salvage it? If the answer is yes, then I recommend you being as amicable and as kind as possible through the process. Start by imagining how you want your relationship to be in the future …

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Children Get Divorced Too

Children go through a “divorce” too. The world that they knew as a “family” becomes very different. The relationship with both parents changes and sometimes it involves moving homes. Sometimes, the separation can have a positive impact on the children, especially removing them from situations of neglect, high tensions and abuse. Other times, the children …

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Separation And The Changing State of Friends

When you get divorced you learn who your true friends are. Some are super supportive and call regularly to check on your wellbeing. Others run away. Friends, regardless of the reason, move on. However, separation tends to make it blatantly and more painfully obvious. Generally, coupled friends close to you and your partner often feel …

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Don’t Threaten To Leave If You Don’t Mean It

As I was watching an episode of The Real Housewives of Orange County (please don’t judge), it made me recall an episode from a previous season where Heather DuBrow was offended when her husband Terry used the “D” word. I pondered Heather’s reaction. My conclusion is that “divorce” is often threatened or referred to when …

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How to know when it is time to get divorced?

Making the decision to end a marriage is a very big decision. Many people took vows to live together through poverty and poor health for the rest of their lives. Leaving the marriage leaves them feeling conflicted. Ending the marriage leaves some people feeling relieved and elated, others numb or guilty. In my opinion, there …

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Mother’s Who Leave (SBS, Insight)

On June 7, 2016 the media ignited with the heading “mothers who leave”. It was instigated by an SBS Insight episode (that aired the same night, titled the same). It was a candid discussion from women who chose to leave their children with their father and also from children who were left by their mothers …

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Storms Can’t Hurt The Sky; A Buddhist Path Through Divorce (Gabriel Cohen)

Storms Can’t Hurt The Sky, A Buddhist Path Through Divorce is not a book telling you how to divorce and what to do. It is a book recounts the emotional journey and how Gabriel Cohen managed his anger using Buddhist teachings. By educating the reader how Buddhist teachings help you to choose how you react …

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Rebuilding; When Your Relationship Ends (Bruce Fisher)

Rebuilding features 19 steps that people go through after breaking up. Fisher describes each stage from the point of view of the “dumpee” and “dumper” and further explains what the children of the break up may be experiencing during this time too. Each chapter is relatively short and features a brief questionnaire at the end …

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