Posts Tagged “tips”


7 pressures that can strain a marriage

The are many things that can contribute towards the break-down of a marriage or serious relationship. Here are just a few pressure points that can strain a marriage ...

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Separation + Work = Financial Independence

For many individuals, separation means that they need to seek employment and be financially independent. This can be scary if you haven’t worked in a number of years (or ...

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Getting the most out of mediation with advice from expert facilitator

When an expert mediator wants to share tips on how to get the most out of your mediation or family dispute resolution, it’s time to start taking notes! ...

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How to strengthen the bonds between siblings during divorce

Having a healthy level of expectations and understanding when working with a lawyer is essential. If you expect your lawyer to answer all of the small questions, sort out every little issue or document every concern, you will ...

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Lessons I learned with my family lawyer

Having a healthy level of expectations and understanding when working with a lawyer is essential. If you expect your lawyer to answer all of the small questions, sort out every little issue or document every concern, you will ...

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When Mums are Dads

There are more people than ever before using the Family Courts. The vast majority of the separating population are not able to afford unlimited legal representation. Equally, more and more people are self-representing and, understandably, they...

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24 ways to stretch your legal budget during divorce

There are more people than ever before using the Family Courts. The vast majority of the separating population are not able to afford unlimited legal representation. Equally, more and more people are self-representing and, understandably, they...

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10 ways to show affection without buying a gift

You don’t need to open your wallet and buy something to sow someone that you love them. There are ways that you can show affection without buying a gift or flowers. Divorce Answered offers 10 suggestions for ...

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12 Christmas Tips: How to Emotionally Prepare

As urban and metro areas become more densely populated, housing and blocks of land become smaller. More people are being forced to share a smaller space. For many people ...

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12 Christmas Tips: How to Financially Prepare

As urban and metro areas become more densely populated, housing and blocks of land become smaller. More people are being forced to share a smaller space. For many people ...

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Should Children Share a Bedroom? Considerations for and against it

As urban and metro areas become more densely populated, housing and blocks of land become smaller. More people are being forced to share a smaller space. For many people ...

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Mental Health Awareness Day. A Marriage Under Pressure

When I separated in 2012, I knew that I did everything I could to try to get my husband help. The challenge with mental health is that it isn’t a tangible issue and there are ebbs and flows. More pitfalls...

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Self-medication alternatives when depressed or experiencing depression

Separation ultimately and periodically takes a toll on individuals. There will be moments of stress, anxiety, helplessness and frustration which can leave you feeling depressed or with depression. When these feelings arise, ...

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Was sharing a bathroom a contributing factor to your divorce?

(blog) I am clearly a challenging and particular person. I like things tidy and neat (where possible) and even behind the closed doors and inside cupboards. In an ideal world, I think men, women and their partners ...

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The Christmas Creep. Is your bank account prepared for Christmas?

(blog) Christmas - Aargh! It has crept up on me again. The bank balance is looking sad and in dire need of a cash windfall. My heart starts to beat fast when I recall ...

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Divorced and Dating. The Two Types of Women

(Personal perspective) In 2012 my marriage was irreparable. Within days of my separation, I had two other girlfriends also separate. Incidentally, I have met and supported many women throughout their separations and ...

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Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?

Making the decision to end a marriage is a very big decision. Many people took vows to live together through poverty and poor health for the rest of their lives. Leaving the marriage leaves them feeling ...

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The Rights Of Grandparents In Divorce

Today, more than any previous generation, grandparents are playing a more active role in the lives of their grandchildren. This post is dedicated to Nanna. Nanna is concerned for other grandparents who aren’t able to facilitate a loving relationship with their grandchildren of divorce ...

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Why in-car communication with kids is important

In the daily hustle and bustle of life, we often overlook the smaller, incidental opportunities to connect with our children. Even cars built today are fitted with ports for the current digital devices which ...

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Auditor General: NSW Energy Rebate Fail

Today (September 19, 2017) in the NSW news, there has been a lot of talk about energy prices following the early September energy price increase. So, if you are a low-income family or pensioner and ...

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8 Essential Catch-Phrases for Children

These are great rules for any home – As a single parent, I feel the need to have some order and clear expectations of what I want and expect from the children. With...

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Learning to self-love after divorce

Often people leave their marriage feeling broken, bruised and bashed-about. They struggle with confidence as a parent, partner and as a person. Often, they have lost their self-value. Somehow and in some way, they need to find...

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R U Ok? Day. Considering divorcees and the children of divorce

R U Ok? Day is today, September 14, 2017, which means that more than ever before, we need to check in with our friends, family, neighbours and particularly the growing number of divorcees. This year, you are asked you to please pay particular attention to your friends starting or in the thick of their divorce...

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How Long Has it Been Since You Saw Your GP? Why you need to check your health regularly

Divorce, separation and single life has many challenges – peace of mind in a time of change and uncertainty is such a blessing. Just like you have to be able to love yourself before you can love someone else, you too aren’t any good to...

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What To Do Now That You Are Separated

While divorce is devastating, it can be equally as liberating. Whether you made the decision or the decision to end the union was made for you, it is still a huge change. For many people, they...

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Deciding Not To Be A Divorce Victim

What marriage is and what it looks like is ever changing. The traditional 1950s stay at home mother with working husband is antiquated. Today, there are traditional, blended and single-parent families, de facto...

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Surprising Marriage Factors

What marriage is and what it looks like is ever changing. The traditional 1950s stay at home mother with working husband is antiquated. Today, there are traditional, blended and single-parent families, de facto...

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An Open Letter to my Ex-Spouse

The judge said ‘if you don’t hate each other now, when we go to hearing you certainly will.’ You may be pleased to know that I don’t hate you. I actually feel ...

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Navigating Father's Day for Children of Divorce and their Dad

Many fathers wish that they could have more time each day, week or month with their children and this is often highlighted on Father’s Day. According to the ABS, almost one in 5 families are...

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Father's Day Solutions For Children of Single and Solo Mums

Not every child is fortunate to have their dad active and involved in their daily lives. There are many who have limited to no contact. The reasons for...

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Single Parents Guide to Navigating Special Occasions

As special occasions arise throughout the year, many divorced and single parents feel unsettled or unsatisfied with the parenting and visiting arrangements. It isn’t until...

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Advice to the Person Dating a Single Parent

Being a single, primary parent is exhausting and a thank-less role. It’s also very easy to slip someone new seamlessly into family life without having to...

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6 tips for managing and moving on after break up

The end of a relationship, be it the end of a marriage or long-term relationship, affects people in different ways. Divorce Answered shares tips on dealing with the break-up and...

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The benefits of moving post-separation

Moving at any time in your life can be stressful. Adding children and separation to the mix, the process can become more overwhelming. Divorce Answered generally recommends...

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How the same-sex marraige debate is redundant and wasteful

I find it interesting how, in the 21st century, some conservative people in positions of power and influence are resisting the immediate legalisation of same-sex marriage. To date, ...

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Should I have Divorced Differently?

A part of me wishes I could say that I would have done things differently in my divorce; this isn’t the case. For my children, I wish that the outcome...

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Shaking the Shackles of Marriage. How to have the 'I want a Separation' conversation

Deciding to end a relationship or a marriage is a life changing decision and the first step towards moving forward begins with a long and detailed conversation with your partner...

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12 Simple Ways to Help Children Through Divorce

Divorce and separation changes the dynamics for a family. Often the parents are so wrapped up in their own emotional turmoil that the children are sometimes the forgotten victims. Here are some...

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How soon is too soon to move on after divorce?

Divorce Answered reflects upon the ‘how soon is too soon to move on after divorce’ question and offers some self-reflection considerations before taking the leap. “When is it the right time to move on?” is one of the biggest questions faced by...

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4 Lessons About Raising Children as a Working Parent

I recently heard a smart person say that we should never feel guilty about being a working parent. To be guilty means assumes that something was wrong and a wrong-doing done. There is nothing wrong about working to...

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5 Tips for Leaving An Abusive Relationship

It is alarming to know that domestic violence is an ongoing issue around the country. In fact, one in three Australian women have experienced physical violence and one in four Australian women have experienced emotional abuse by a current or former partner . Domestic violence doesn’t discriminate ...

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6 Phrases Not To Say To Your Divorcing Friend

Divorcing is difficult. Friends and family want to support you. Just like in times of loss and grief, separation is equally difficult and finding the right words can be hard. As a support person, the top...

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The Importance Of Following Professional Advice and Recommendations

Failing to follow the recommendations of any professional throughout the divorce process could have undesired consequences. Depending on your court case, your lawyer, appointed judge and other professionals, you may not like the outcomes that are either...

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The Best Conversation Starters When Dating After Divorce

As a divorcee, it is so hard to date. Following separation and significant relationships, often our confidence has been shaken and we aren’t sure what is dating protocol nowadays. Many people don’t want to...

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De Facto Relationship Myths Debunked

All too often we hear couples in long term relationships say that “marriage is only a piece of paper” or “we didn’t get married because we don’t want to get divorced.” Unfortunately, these couples don’t realise that they are actually part...

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Baby Boomer De Facto Relationships Exposed

Many Baby Boomers (people born post World War II, between 1946 and 1964) often recouple when in a financially sound situation. They couple for many reasons, primarily for companionship. Rachael Scharrer, founder of online resource DivorceAnswered.com.au has exposed the lesser known truths about ...

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What To Do When Your Ex IS SAFE And Threatens Suicide

At the end of a relationship, often one spouse copes better with the change than the other. One of the spouse may feel a sense of relief, optimism and elation compared to the other who is lost, confused and filled with remorse or regret. Grief is also ...

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What To Do If You Can't Afford A Lawyer

It is stressful if you are on a budget and wondering how you will meet the costs of a lawyer. Retaining a family lawyer from start to finish may mean an overwhelming invoice at the end. Similarly, not hiring a lawyer could be a mistake...

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Mixed Emotions About Settling Out of Court

Have you ever known a person who says one thing and does the opposite? Do you know a person who keeps changing their mind or is incredibly fickle? Try making an offer for settlement with this unknown entity! I have been asked by my ex-spouse to ...

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The Duality Of Feelings in Separation

Separation can leave you feeling two extremes - One that weighs heavily upon you while experiencing the opposite emotion at the same time. Separation is a process highlighted with emotional challenges and growth concurrently occurring. On any given day...

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The Lessons Learned From Divorce

Divorcing can be a time of awakening and enlightenment while filled with challenges and tribulations. However, once you have made your way through the process and once ...

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