Posts Tagged “parenting”


How to be a Working Parent and Raise Happy Children Without the Guilt

I once heard a saying “You can be a great mother or a great career woman, but not both at the same time.” The biggest challenge for working parents (especially single, full-time parents) is ...

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Powerless Child Support

(Opinion) My frustration is rising. Child support debt is mounting and there is nothing that can be done about it. I am the recipient parent of child support. The paying parent...

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Myths And Fallacies About Being a Single Parent

There are many common and widely known statements about being a single parent or single parenting. While these may be true for some people (the minority), they are generalisations which don’t apply to the vast majority of single parents and are made without any factual basis or concrete evidence. Many of the statements below are …

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Child Support Is A Right

Children do not grow on sunshine, fresh air and water alone. They cost money to raise and grow into amazing people. Child support is an entitlement for children aged 0 – 18 years and in a divorced/separated situation and calculated with considerations to the number of nights spent with each parent. In recent years, the …

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Pulling The Pin on Domestic Violence and Harrassment

Domestic violence is often ignored by the victim and “swept under the rug”. Unfortunately, domestic violence only gets worse and doesn’t go away on its own. Unhealthy relationships often start with love, friendship, trust and loyalty. During the relationship, one of the couple (“the Bully”) takes the power, becomes possessive and demands control with an …

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Create Your Divorce Song List

Music moves moods. It can change your emotional state dramatically and quickly. Depending on the genre of music that you like, you might like to consider creating different song list or compilations depending on your different moods. Separate your songs into categories such as motivating/uplifting, anger diffusing and calming. To help you get started, you …

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Are You Really a Single Parent?

It annoys me when people say they are a single parent when, in my opinion, they are not. Which makes me to question; what is the definition of a single parent? To me, a single parent is someone who makes the decisions almost all of the time, if not exclusively, for the children. This parent …

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Top 10 Things To Do For You When Divorcing

Start a gratitude journal. Learn to be mindful of the little things. Celebrate the small wins for you, your friends and family without jealousy, Get a hobby, find your passion or study. Your friends will tire of hearing all about your divorce and children. Finding a new activity, will help make you personally fulfilled and...

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Divorcing With Children VS Divorcing Without Children

When I got separated, the only people I knew that had divorced did so prior to having children. All of my other friends with children were in happy, contented marriages. My friends were so supportive, but couldn’t offer any advice when it came to managing the other parent, what to do or how to handle …

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Children Get Divorced Too

Children go through a “divorce” too. The world that they knew as a “family” becomes very different. The relationship with both parents changes and sometimes it involves moving homes. Sometimes, the separation can have a positive impact on the children, especially removing them from situations of neglect, high tensions and abuse. Other times, the children …

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How Old Should Your Children Be Before Breaking Up or Divorcing?

The short answer is, there is no right answer. Regardless of whether you break up before your child is four, fourteen or forty, there are benefits and pitfalls to breaking up with children at all ages. Below are a few considerations… Young children (aged 0-11) PRO * Too young to know any different type …

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How to know when it is time to get divorced?

Making the decision to end a marriage is a very big decision. Many people took vows to live together through poverty and poor health for the rest of their lives. Leaving the marriage leaves them feeling conflicted. Ending the marriage leaves some people feeling relieved and elated, others numb or guilty. In my opinion, there …

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Parenthood is not a right, it’s a privilege (Daily Telegraph)

On September 10, 2015, when I read the heading of the Daily Telegraph Opinion Article “Parenthood is not a right, it’s a privilege” (Louise Roberts) it really stuck a cord with me. My immediate thought was “too true”. The article itself refers to freezing eggs and the timing of having children. However, the end of …

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Mother’s Who Leave (SBS, Insight)

On June 7, 2016 the media ignited with the heading “mothers who leave”. It was instigated by an SBS Insight episode (that aired the same night, titled the same). It was a candid discussion from women who chose to leave their children with their father and also from children who were left by their mothers …

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Mum and Dad Glue (Kes Gray)

This book is a short picture book about parents who have decided to separate. It addresses the love lost between the parents and a child’s attempt to “stick” them back together with “parent glue”. This rhyming story delivers a powerful and optimistic message and reinforces the lesson that despite the parents not loving each other …

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Two Homes (Clare Masure)

This is a simple, gender neutral story of a child named Alex who explains his/her story about having two homes. It is told using short, simple sentences and a happy and upbeat language complimented with bright illustrations. Alex show the reader the two homes that he/she lives in, the two front doors, two kitchens and …

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Fred Stays With Me! (Nancy Coffelt)

This is a beautifully written story about a little child whose parents are divorced. As the child moves between each house, so does her dog, Fred. Fred is the constant companion and confidant. What is particularly interesting about this story is that the dog presents the challenge for the parents, the child asserts her authority …

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Rebuilding; When Your Relationship Ends (Bruce Fisher)

Rebuilding features 19 steps that people go through after breaking up. Fisher describes each stage from the point of view of the “dumpee” and “dumper” and further explains what the children of the break up may be experiencing during this time too. Each chapter is relatively short and features a brief questionnaire at the end …

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What is Sole Parental Responsibility?

In 2006, changes to the Family Law Act ensured that all parents default to SHARED EQUAL PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY for their children. Regardless of your marital situation (single, defacto, re-married, divorced or separated). If you are a parent to a child, you may assume Shared Equal Parenting Responsibility or come to an agreement offering Shared Parental …

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Equal Shared Parental Responsibility

In 2006, the Australian Government regulated an assumption that any two people that have a child automatically assume “Equal Shared Parenting Responsibility” (ESPR). This means that regardless of whether you and the other parent had a child from a one-night-stand or in a defacto/married relationship and regardless of whether you are now together, apart, separated…

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Interim Parenting Orders Do Not Lapse

When a judge makes a ruling or order. It can be on an interim (limited time period) basis or a final basis (which is permanent/indefinite). The interim orders stay in place until they are REPLACED by new orders (even when a time period was noted, say 6 months or 12 months). Say, the Judge ruled…

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Creating a Parenting Plan

Taking the time to consider what parenting plan or order you believe is appropriate for your family is helpful for a number of reasons – most importantly, because structure is essential for you to move on with life and for your children. When considering your parenting orders, three main rules must be applied; Be child-minded…

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Parenting Orders/Plans and Court

Below are a few items for consideration when collating your parenting plan – be it the Divorce Answered Parenting Plan, the Divorce Answered Separation Statement, something you are creating yourself or personal expectations that you need to manage. No plan, no divorce! Did you know that if you don’t have a parenting plan in place,…

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