Posts in Category “Parenting”


7 pressures that can strain a marriage

The are many things that can contribute towards the break-down of a marriage or serious relationship. Here are just a few pressure points that can strain a marriage ...

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Domestic Violence and Leaving The Relationship [personal perspective]

Dinner time is a great time for everyone to connect, learn and share. It helps to forge bonds between siblings and the parent/child relationship. Learn how and why here ...

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How To Eat Together As a Family and Why It is Good For You

Dinner time is a great time for everyone to connect, learn and share. It helps to forge bonds between siblings and the parent/child relationship. Learn how and why here ...

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How To Change Your Child's Name

For some people at the end of a bad marriage or long-term relationship it is their wish to change their name or their child wishes to change their name. Divorce Answered.com.au's founder knows first-hand the desire, challenges and how to change a child’s name. Rachael was and still is ...

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Getting the most out of mediation with advice from expert facilitator

When an expert mediator wants to share tips on how to get the most out of your mediation or family dispute resolution, it’s time to start taking notes! ...

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How to strengthen the bonds between siblings during divorce

Having a healthy level of expectations and understanding when working with a lawyer is essential. If you expect your lawyer to answer all of the small questions, sort out every little issue or document every concern, you will ...

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When Mums are Dads

There are more people than ever before using the Family Courts. The vast majority of the separating population are not able to afford unlimited legal representation. Equally, more and more people are self-representing and, understandably, they...

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Divorce, Separation and your Last Will

Let’s cover a morbid topic and clarify what happens to your assets when you die. Divorce Answered shares insights into your marital status, your Last Will and associated implications of...

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10 ways to show affection without buying a gift

You don’t need to open your wallet and buy something to sow someone that you love them. There are ways that you can show affection without buying a gift or flowers. Divorce Answered offers 10 suggestions for ...

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12 Christmas Tips: How to Financially Prepare

As urban and metro areas become more densely populated, housing and blocks of land become smaller. More people are being forced to share a smaller space. For many people ...

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Should Children Share a Bedroom? Considerations for and against it

As urban and metro areas become more densely populated, housing and blocks of land become smaller. More people are being forced to share a smaller space. For many people ...

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The Christmas Creep. Is your bank account prepared for Christmas?

(blog) Christmas - Aargh! It has crept up on me again. The bank balance is looking sad and in dire need of a cash windfall. My heart starts to beat fast when I recall ...

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Divorced and Dating. The Two Types of Women

(Personal perspective) In 2012 my marriage was irreparable. Within days of my separation, I had two other girlfriends also separate. Incidentally, I have met and supported many women throughout their separations and ...

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Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?

Making the decision to end a marriage is a very big decision. Many people took vows to live together through poverty and poor health for the rest of their lives. Leaving the marriage leaves them feeling ...

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The Rights Of Grandparents In Divorce

Today, more than any previous generation, grandparents are playing a more active role in the lives of their grandchildren. This post is dedicated to Nanna. Nanna is concerned for other grandparents who aren’t able to facilitate a loving relationship with their grandchildren of divorce ...

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Why in-car communication with kids is important

In the daily hustle and bustle of life, we often overlook the smaller, incidental opportunities to connect with our children. Even cars built today are fitted with ports for the current digital devices which ...

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Auditor General: NSW Energy Rebate Fail

Today (September 19, 2017) in the NSW news, there has been a lot of talk about energy prices following the early September energy price increase. So, if you are a low-income family or pensioner and ...

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8 Essential Catch-Phrases for Children

These are great rules for any home – As a single parent, I feel the need to have some order and clear expectations of what I want and expect from the children. With...

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R U Ok? Day. Considering divorcees and the children of divorce

R U Ok? Day is today, September 14, 2017, which means that more than ever before, we need to check in with our friends, family, neighbours and particularly the growing number of divorcees. This year, you are asked you to please pay particular attention to your friends starting or in the thick of their divorce...

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How Long Has it Been Since You Saw Your GP? Why you need to check your health regularly

Divorce, separation and single life has many challenges – peace of mind in a time of change and uncertainty is such a blessing. Just like you have to be able to love yourself before you can love someone else, you too aren’t any good to...

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What To Do Now That You Are Separated

While divorce is devastating, it can be equally as liberating. Whether you made the decision or the decision to end the union was made for you, it is still a huge change. For many people, they...

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An Open Letter to my Ex-Spouse

The judge said ‘if you don’t hate each other now, when we go to hearing you certainly will.’ You may be pleased to know that I don’t hate you. I actually feel ...

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Navigating Father's Day for Children of Divorce and their Dad

Many fathers wish that they could have more time each day, week or month with their children and this is often highlighted on Father’s Day. According to the ABS, almost one in 5 families are...

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Father's Day Solutions For Children of Single and Solo Mums

Not every child is fortunate to have their dad active and involved in their daily lives. There are many who have limited to no contact. The reasons for...

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Single Parents Guide to Navigating Special Occasions

As special occasions arise throughout the year, many divorced and single parents feel unsettled or unsatisfied with the parenting and visiting arrangements. It isn’t until...

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Advice to the Person Dating a Single Parent

Being a single, primary parent is exhausting and a thank-less role. It’s also very easy to slip someone new seamlessly into family life without having to...

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How the same-sex marraige debate is redundant and wasteful

I find it interesting how, in the 21st century, some conservative people in positions of power and influence are resisting the immediate legalisation of same-sex marriage. To date, ...

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Should I have Divorced Differently?

A part of me wishes I could say that I would have done things differently in my divorce; this isn’t the case. For my children, I wish that the outcome...

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12 Simple Ways to Help Children Through Divorce

Divorce and separation changes the dynamics for a family. Often the parents are so wrapped up in their own emotional turmoil that the children are sometimes the forgotten victims. Here are some...

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4 Lessons About Raising Children as a Working Parent

I recently heard a smart person say that we should never feel guilty about being a working parent. To be guilty means assumes that something was wrong and a wrong-doing done. There is nothing wrong about working to...

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5 Tips for Leaving An Abusive Relationship

It is alarming to know that domestic violence is an ongoing issue around the country. In fact, one in three Australian women have experienced physical violence and one in four Australian women have experienced emotional abuse by a current or former partner . Domestic violence doesn’t discriminate ...

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The Importance Of Following Professional Advice and Recommendations

Failing to follow the recommendations of any professional throughout the divorce process could have undesired consequences. Depending on your court case, your lawyer, appointed judge and other professionals, you may not like the outcomes that are either...

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De Facto Relationship Myths Debunked

All too often we hear couples in long term relationships say that “marriage is only a piece of paper” or “we didn’t get married because we don’t want to get divorced.” Unfortunately, these couples don’t realise that they are actually part...

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Baby Boomer De Facto Relationships Exposed

Many Baby Boomers (people born post World War II, between 1946 and 1964) often recouple when in a financially sound situation. They couple for many reasons, primarily for companionship. Rachael Scharrer, founder of online resource DivorceAnswered.com.au has exposed the lesser known truths about ...

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For men. Domestic Violence Victims and How to Leave the Relationship

The founder of DivorceAnswered.com.au wants to raise awareness of the male victims of domestic violence and offer advice for leaving a relationship involving domestic violence. Domestic Violence Awareness Month is in May and is to raise awareness of Domestic Violence in all relationships. Often it is skewed towards the female victims and many men don’t realise that ...

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10 Ways Children are Misused in Divorce

Too often parents complain that their ex-spouse is using the children as ‘weapons’ in divorce. While a parent may think nothing of their choices or actions, the long-term ramifications of this can have life-long detrimental aftershocks for the child, the innocent party of divorce. There are too many ways in which parents ...

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How to be a Working Parent and Raise Happy Children Without the Guilt

I once heard a saying “You can be a great mother or a great career woman, but not both at the same time.” The biggest challenge for working parents (especially single, full-time parents) is ...

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Powerless Child Support

(Opinion) My frustration is rising. Child support debt is mounting and there is nothing that can be done about it. I am the recipient parent of child support. The paying parent...

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10 Realistic Expectations When Divorcing

Divorcing isn’t easy and there is a lot of sweat and tears wasted before you can experience the ‘silver lining’. Before you start, shift your divorce expectations.

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When Will I be divorced? The generalised process and timeline

Your marriage doesn’t end with the words “I don’t want to be with you anymore”. This video is a general synopsis of the timeline that you follow along the road to divorcing while offering some tips and considerations.

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Modernising The Way We Celebrate Valentine’s Day

With divorce rates on the rise coupled with the inequity of women to men ratios, there are more and more people celebrating Valentine’s Day on their own. If we were as a nation to review the way that we celebrate Valentine’s Day from a ‘couple-exclusive’ occasion and share it with the masses, it would be...

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Myths And Fallacies About Being a Single Parent

There are many common and widely known statements about being a single parent or single parenting. While these may be true for some people (the minority), they are generalisations which don’t apply to the vast majority of single parents and are made without any factual basis or concrete evidence. Many of the statements below are …

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New Year Resolutions for the Single, Separated and Divorced

Have you made your new year resolution yet? Is it a good one? Now that the New Year weekend has passed, perhaps it’s time to think of something a little different than the usual “giving up” or exercise more. One of the biggest contributing factors that resolutions fail is because they aren’t achievable. Below are …

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Child Support Is A Right

Children do not grow on sunshine, fresh air and water alone. They cost money to raise and grow into amazing people. Child support is an entitlement for children aged 0 – 18 years and in a divorced/separated situation and calculated with considerations to the number of nights spent with each parent. In recent years, the …

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Pulling The Pin on Domestic Violence and Harrassment

Domestic violence is often ignored by the victim and “swept under the rug”. Unfortunately, domestic violence only gets worse and doesn’t go away on its own. Unhealthy relationships often start with love, friendship, trust and loyalty. During the relationship, one of the couple (“the Bully”) takes the power, becomes possessive and demands control with an …

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Create Your Divorce Song List

Music moves moods. It can change your emotional state dramatically and quickly. Depending on the genre of music that you like, you might like to consider creating different song list or compilations depending on your different moods. Separate your songs into categories such as motivating/uplifting, anger diffusing and calming. To help you get started, you …

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Are You Really a Single Parent?

It annoys me when people say they are a single parent when, in my opinion, they are not. Which makes me to question; what is the definition of a single parent? To me, a single parent is someone who makes the decisions almost all of the time, if not exclusively, for the children. This parent …

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Top 10 Things To Do For You When Divorcing

Start a gratitude journal. Learn to be mindful of the little things. Celebrate the small wins for you, your friends and family without jealousy, Get a hobby, find your passion or study. Your friends will tire of hearing all about your divorce and children. Finding a new activity, will help make you personally fulfilled and...

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Divorcing With Children VS Divorcing Without Children

When I got separated, the only people I knew that had divorced did so prior to having children. All of my other friends with children were in happy, contented marriages. My friends were so supportive, but couldn’t offer any advice when it came to managing the other parent, what to do or how to handle …

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Children Get Divorced Too

Children go through a “divorce” too. The world that they knew as a “family” becomes very different. The relationship with both parents changes and sometimes it involves moving homes. Sometimes, the separation can have a positive impact on the children, especially removing them from situations of neglect, high tensions and abuse. Other times, the children …

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How Old Should Your Children Be Before Breaking Up or Divorcing?

The short answer is, there is no right answer. Regardless of whether you break up before your child is four, fourteen or forty, there are benefits and pitfalls to breaking up with children at all ages. Below are a few considerations… Young children (aged 0-11) PRO * Too young to know any different type …

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How to know when it is time to get divorced?

Making the decision to end a marriage is a very big decision. Many people took vows to live together through poverty and poor health for the rest of their lives. Leaving the marriage leaves them feeling conflicted. Ending the marriage leaves some people feeling relieved and elated, others numb or guilty. In my opinion, there …

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Parenthood is not a right, it’s a privilege (Daily Telegraph)

On September 10, 2015, when I read the heading of the Daily Telegraph Opinion Article “Parenthood is not a right, it’s a privilege” (Louise Roberts) it really stuck a cord with me. My immediate thought was “too true”. The article itself refers to freezing eggs and the timing of having children. However, the end of …

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Mother’s Who Leave (SBS, Insight)

On June 7, 2016 the media ignited with the heading “mothers who leave”. It was instigated by an SBS Insight episode (that aired the same night, titled the same). It was a candid discussion from women who chose to leave their children with their father and also from children who were left by their mothers …

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Mum and Dad Glue (Kes Gray)

This book is a short picture book about parents who have decided to separate. It addresses the love lost between the parents and a child’s attempt to “stick” them back together with “parent glue”. This rhyming story delivers a powerful and optimistic message and reinforces the lesson that despite the parents not loving each other …

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Two Homes (Clare Masure)

This is a simple, gender neutral story of a child named Alex who explains his/her story about having two homes. It is told using short, simple sentences and a happy and upbeat language complimented with bright illustrations. Alex show the reader the two homes that he/she lives in, the two front doors, two kitchens and …

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Fred Stays With Me! (Nancy Coffelt)

This is a beautifully written story about a little child whose parents are divorced. As the child moves between each house, so does her dog, Fred. Fred is the constant companion and confidant. What is particularly interesting about this story is that the dog presents the challenge for the parents, the child asserts her authority …

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Rebuilding; When Your Relationship Ends (Bruce Fisher)

Rebuilding features 19 steps that people go through after breaking up. Fisher describes each stage from the point of view of the “dumpee” and “dumper” and further explains what the children of the break up may be experiencing during this time too. Each chapter is relatively short and features a brief questionnaire at the end …

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What is Sole Parental Responsibility?

In 2006, changes to the Family Law Act ensured that all parents default to SHARED EQUAL PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY for their children. Regardless of your marital situation (single, defacto, re-married, divorced or separated). If you are a parent to a child, you may assume Shared Equal Parenting Responsibility or come to an agreement offering Shared Parental …

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Equal Shared Parental Responsibility

In 2006, the Australian Government regulated an assumption that any two people that have a child automatically assume “Equal Shared Parenting Responsibility” (ESPR). This means that regardless of whether you and the other parent had a child from a one-night-stand or in a defacto/married relationship and regardless of whether you are now together, apart, separated…

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Creating a Parenting Plan

Taking the time to consider what parenting plan or order you believe is appropriate for your family is helpful for a number of reasons – most importantly, because structure is essential for you to move on with life and for your children. When considering your parenting orders, three main rules must be applied; Be child-minded…

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Parenting Orders/Plans and Court

Below are a few items for consideration when collating your parenting plan – be it the Divorce Answered Parenting Plan, the Divorce Answered Separation Statement, something you are creating yourself or personal expectations that you need to manage. No plan, no divorce! Did you know that if you don’t have a parenting plan in place,…

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